I attended the annual conference of the North American Council on Adoptable Children ( NACAC) in Columbus Ohio. I’m here because Susie and I adopted our third child 15 years ago. Those who know us well have watched us love thru some difficult times. One of the bright spots from the experience was our role in establishing the Indiana Post Adoption Network (I-PAN). From that, I became aware of NACAC and got an invitation to this conference.
It’s been amazing to me to listen to the stories that adopted children tell of their lives before adoption. I’m not surprised by how seriously damaged many of these children become. I’m more amazed that any of them are resilient enough to lead a semblance of a normal life.
It’s easy for us to fret and complain about the things we don’t have, but awfully difficult for us to realize the bounty we enjoy until we encounter folks who don’t have some of the things we take for granted. I have always had a loving family. That’s what we wanted to provide to our third child. It took years for us to realize that he wasn’t capable of accepting that. We still hold hope that he will one day.